When Saying No is Kinder
This week choose one thing you want to say no to and prepare to say NO!
Not all of us are equipped with steely wills and adamantine discipline. To get through the work of the week we may often need to say no. Is that a problem for you? Me to. It seems so much easier just to give in and agree. But often that is counter productive and will land us with a load of extra trouble later on.
How do we change this pattern? We start with ourselves. Saying no internally at the right moment can be enormously powerful. It sets us up to know what we want and what we don’t. The why’s and wherefore’s come later. Just focus on that inner feeling that tells you No is the answer right now. Or if that moment passes you by, just focus on the moment missed when you wanted to say no to yourself. Slowing down our responses enables us to gain control over important issues and habits that are not longer serving our goals in life.
Choosing for ourselves and creating clear boundaries is a lifetimes’ work so why not begin now? As you are clear with yourself so you become clear to others. As you care for and support your own energies so you become able to show others how to do that too.