Be in the Zone today

Observe yourself today!

Be the observer of your thoughts and the incessant chatter of your mind.

Observe your emotions. These are your thoughts made into felt sensations by the body.

Breathe and ask yourself ‘How do I feel right now?’

By going inwards beyond the surface distractions of your external life you can sink deep into the core of your being – your inner body has wisdom.

Do this several times a day – choose those ‘odd’ moments when nothing much is going on and you can withdraw your energy into yourself and be deeply observant.

Pain underlies so much of our difficulties in life. We search the surface of our world for love and relief and happiness only to find these are fleeting moments soon gone. Only below the surface of our external, habitual experience of life can we find transformation, inspiration and profound creativity. How do you know you are living on the surface? You spend a great deal of time planning and imagining how much better the future will be. You live for tomorrow – the next plan, the next success, the dreams you hope to achieve Stop. Realise that tomorrow never comes, and if it does it will not be as you expected. Take back your power and imagination and reinvest it in the present moment. Observe. Breathe. Smile and do not judge.

Being well

One deep breath and focus your awareness inwards. This will connect you to the inner well of your being from whence springs peace. Make it a habit to do this daily on several occasions. Breathe out and connect to the felt outer world but do not lose that inner connection. Without thought, but with great awareness and feeling, you can now experience your inner and outer worlds. Balance in life comes from a regular felt connection to both worlds.

What is your Inner Body?

How to connect to your inner body and why it’s important

(Frances is available for one -to-one sessions and workshops in the UK– 07940470700 and for Skype and video calls for those living outside the UK)

Why is it so important to be in touch with this ability to sense your inner body? Because we, as a human race, have overdeveloped our thinking, knowing abilities to the point where many have lost the natural ability to ‘sense’ and experience the unseen world inside themselves.  Many of those who come for a session with me are experiencing a lack of awareness of themselves due to compulsive thinking.

Eckhart Tolle talks about it – this mysterious inner body that I get asked about alot during sessions.  Let’s take the mystery out of it right away -‘inner’ and ‘body’ are just two words that try to explain the experience of feeling and knowing where your body is in space.

Take your hand out in front of  you.  You can see it so you ‘know’ it’s there.  Now close your eyes.  You can’t see it anymore but you now have a ‘sense’ of it being there. Sensing and knowing are two different ways human beings experience themselves and the outside world.

Take 5 minutes every day to sit or lie comfortably with your eyes closed and notice how your body feels

  • breath two conscious breaths and imagine them going all the way into your arms and legs as if your lungs extended across your whole body
  • smile and let go of any thoughts that come up by sending your attention to a part of your body that feels quiet or numb or simple ‘not there’

You will be amazed at how quickly you regain this wonderful sense of your living, breathing inner body and how it improves your sense of well being and balance.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She  lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience.  To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom just click on the link below –

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Innerbody-Wisdom-Finding-presence-spiritual-ebook/dp/B00UUEPPXI/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1475484739&sr=1-1&keywords=Innerbody+Wisdom

http://www.innerbodywisdom.co.uk

 

 

Make me a happy person

Taking responsibility for our own happiness in a troubled world.

What a revelation when I read somewhere that unhappiness is caused by how I think about what has happened to me and not just the event or person.  For indeed, these are now in the past and are memories.  The only thing I have any choice in right now is how I choose to think about it.

But do I truly have a choice over how and when I think?

Yes, but only if I meditate quietly every day for ten minutes and watch the thoughts in my mind.  And then continue to notice throughout the day.  I do this in the spirit of cheerful observation.  Aha, I say, there goes another stray thought.

Simple observation with  a cheerful outlook can seriously reduce the troubling thoughts in our heads!  This in turn develops a sense of calm.  Multitasking and too many distractions do the opposite.  So time everyday to reduce the inner dialogue will up your happiness levels.

Frances Lockstone is an author, healer and coach

http://www.innerbodywisdom.co.uk

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How to sit with your worst fears

You are in crisis,  a crisis of fear and anxiety.  Well if not today you probably had that last week or the week before or it’s coming.  We live in the age of anxiety.  Fear creates this.  But some of my fears are real! Yes, that is so.  But it does not help you.

To change the feedback loop the mind has created in order to help us survive we must find a way to bypass the fear messages that create more anxiety and pain.  We do not need to go into denial and repression.  That is also the old way.

I am going to ask you to sit with your fears and deeply feel them.  To sit in silence with fear is terrifying to most of us.  We will create endless distractions, diversions and addictions to not sit with the fears in silence.  But beloved ones, the FEARS want to be heard and seen.  Then they will evolve into powerful wisdom and action that creates love not more fear.

So sit.  Sit in the evening light.  Wake at dawn and sit.  Take yourself to the toilet during the day and sit.  It takes but a moment to breathe deeply into the body and feel.  Women have always done this and some men too.  Sit with your worst fears and watch them evolve.  You have more power and wisdom and insight than you will ever know until you sit in the silence of love.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of teaching Innerbody Wisdom.

To book a  coaching session  on Skype email her:

 frances@innerbodywisdom.co.uk

To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom click on the link below –

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Innerbody-Wisdom-Finding-presence-spiritual-ebook/dp/B00UUEPPXI/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1475484739&sr=1-1&keywords=Innerbody+Wisdom

http://www.innerbodywisdom.co.uk

 

The World has Gone Mad

When world events disturb and upset us – what can we do?

The most powerful way to create change is to take your attention inwards. Do this first in your breath. Then scan your body with your mind. Notice how it feels. This creates inner body awareness that opens the gateway to Presence – your conscious connection to the divine source. Once you experience that connection, go deeper. Dive into the Divine and you will find a wordless presence that will do more good in this world of ours than any amount of worrying.

THEN take action – action that springs from your inner wisdom that will be powerful and guided and gut felt. This is the opposite of the reactive response most humans experience that comes from the unconscious mind and is always unhelpful.

Several times a day make it your practice to connect to this inner source of being that we call Presence. Soon Presence will be with you when you wake and will guide our world to healing and peace.

Do you get irritable and annoyed with yourself?

Tough day?  Could be you are suffering from your inner critic.

Just one of those days?  or  a repeating pattern in your life.  It’s just how I am – or could I change this pattern of irritation and annoyance?

Your inner critic is a learned response to stress.  I bet you had a critical mum or dad (and bless them, because they were doing their best and so are you.)

Let’s see if we can work out what the pay off is.  Say to yourself ‘When I criticise myself it …..’  Could be in a strange way it relieves the tension for a moment (but does it create more in the long term?)  Could be it is a habit – something you do as a displacement activity when you can’t grasp a task or haven’t the energy to work out a solution.

Once you realise that this inner critic saps life energy and can become a habit that sends you on a downward spiral you may decide to observe it more closely.  Let it rip – do not try and stop it or it will go underground to emerge even stronger.  Get help from a trained therapist.  Talk to a good and wise friend.  Notice if anyone in your circle of family and friends is also critical of you.  What is inside of us tends to get reflected outside too.  The universe is there to help us see ourselves for the radiant beings of light we truly are.  The inner critic is the voice of ignorance and despair.  Would you want that to continue on and on in your mind space?  No, I thought not.  By observing the inner critic you are stopping sending it unconscious energy.  You are reversing a habit that is unhelpful.  You are gaining self knowledge.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of teaching Innerbody Wisdom.

To book a  coaching session  on Skype email her:

 frances@innerbodywisdom.co.uk

To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom click on the link below –

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Innerbody-Wisdom-Finding-presence-spiritual-ebook/dp/B00UUEPPXI/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1475484739&sr=1-1&keywords=Innerbody+Wisdom

http://www.innerbodywisdom.co.uk

Say No Today if it isn’t working for you

Speak up or remove yourself from the situation

When life gets tough you have a choice – surrender and accept how it is on the inside and then work to put things right as best you can.  Or surrender to the fact that it just isn’t working or it’s plain wrong and remove yourself from the situation.

Both scenarios require surrender on the inside.  Surrender means accepting things as they are and taking responsibility for your part in this.  Do not confuse this with surrendering to someone or a situation out of weakness.  Battle can be done in a state of inner surrender but it will feel completely different because you will feel a strong sense of self or presence or connectedness that makes it the right thing for you to do.

When we are connected to our deep inner self – the innerbody wisdom I speak about often – we experience presence, or a Presence, or a deep sense of being powerfully here and now.  We can cultivate that level of being within ourselves and it will change the outer world that we experience in very interesting ways.  Begin the day with a moment of intense quietness.  Invite your body to surrender any tension or inner conflict for that moment.  Notice how your body reacts to this gentle invitation.  Do this every day and then start to do it during the day at odd moments.  You are reversing generations of human distress and fear by allowing yourself to surrender your own tensions for a moment or two.  What we do for ourselves we also do for others.  Recognise this is a time of importance for the future of the human race and commit to your own process  of inner surrender.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of sharing Innerbody Wisdom.

To book a  coaching session  on Skype email her:

 frances@innerbodywisdom.co.uk

To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom click on the link below –

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Innerbody-Wisdom-Finding-presence-spiritual-ebook/dp/B00UUEPPXI/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1475484739&sr=1-1&keywords=Innerbody+Wisdom

http://www.innerbodywisdom.co.uk

 

 

 

 

When it hurts, choose to be present

It can get messy, life!

We want to be happy.  That is pretty well it.  Life, of course, presents us with many unhappy circumstances.  How do we set about dealing with these challenges?

1 Scream and shout and blame someone else

2 Grumble that you shouldn’t have to deal with this.  Also called the ‘Why me syndrome’

3 Give up and get depressed

You and I have already repeated 1-3 many times.   Let’s try something else, shall we?

Notice the patterns.  When 1-3 occur again, write down what you experience.  Don’t get hard on yourself.  Punishments tend to worsen the crime not make it go away.

Today begin the new reaction.  Begin to notice and be very present with your behaviour.  Be curious about it.  Don’t dismiss or hide it.  True change begins with awareness.  Seek professional help if you need it.  Talk to others who are experienced in this area.  Read the books.  Your life, your precious being, are your true work this lifetime.

 

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of teaching Innerbody Wisdom.

To book a  coaching session  on Skype email her:

 frances@innerbodywisdom.co.uk

To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom click on the link below –

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Innerbody-Wisdom-Finding-presence-spiritual-ebook/dp/B00UUEPPXI/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1475484739&sr=1-1&keywords=Innerbody+Wisdom

http://www.innerbodywisdom.co.uk

 

 

 

How to avoid unnecessary dramas

Be the watcher in your life

Having a few too many dramas lately?  Wondering who to blame and how to get back a sense of balance and sanity?

Take a moment and sit with your hands resting on your lap.  What I am going to tell you will reduce your life dramas significantly.

The dramas we create each day come from our ego self – the bit of me and you that thinks the world is a tough and ugly place full of difficult people.  Ego thinks in terms of threat, competition, crisis, manipulation and winning at all costs.

How you change that drama inducing scenario is by becoming the Watcher of your mind and ego activity.  You begin by sitting quietly for five minutes a day and observing the thoughts in your mind as they pass through.  That shows you the program Ego is currently running as a background app to your life.  It is powerful.  It is subversive.  It will run your life if you let it.  Don’t.

Instead take the training course that means you become the Watcher in your life.  Five minutes a day is a small price to pay to regain control over the dramas.  They simply slow down and then stop once you take the immense step of observing your thoughts and daily actions.  And if the dramas continue?

Bless them.  They are the clearest message you will ever have that you are an unconscious human being.  All of humanity is on a pathway to consciousness.  That is our evolutionary pattern.  Your choice to wake up and be a conscious being – is it going to be now or later?

If you chose later as your option your ego made that choice.  The ego imagines we have a future.  It depends on it.  In reality we have this moment and this moment alone to be the consciousness that is love without end.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of sharing Innerbody Wisdom.

To book a  coaching session  on Skype email her:

 frances@innerbodywisdom.co.uk

To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom click on the link below –

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Innerbody-Wisdom-Finding-presence-spiritual-ebook/dp/B00UUEPPXI/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1475484739&sr=1-1&keywords=Innerbody+Wisdom

http://www.innerbodywisdom.co.uk