Third party Insurance – emotional rescues

Does it work when you try to sort others out?

I get people who try to refer their partners to me for a session – and it very rarely works out.  Or they want their grown up children to get help.  Or it’s their parent or friend.  I love a referral but I need to speak directly to the person concerned – not via a third party.

When you notice yourself trying to sort out other people’s problems, stop and ask yourself:  Is this person an adult?  Are they physically and mentally able to communicate themselves?

Hard though it may be to step back, it is often the most powerful thing to do (emergencies excepted of course).  By suggesting a course of action we show concern.  But if we try to ‘organise’ a course of action for someone else it often fails because it is not empowering for them.  They may feel like you know the answers and they don’t.  So step back.  Let them come to you for advice by all means and share your opinions wisely.  Then take a deep breath and climb back into your own energy, your own power and sense of self.  This offers the other person a space to breathe themselves.

The most powerful and healing tool in the work I do is the power of my own Presence (my achingly alive awareness of the present moment and of the profound inner self who speaks through me at these times).  Cultivate your own sense of Presence.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of teaching Innerbody Wisdom.

To book a  coaching session  on Skype email her:

 frances@innerbodywisdom.co.uk

To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom click on the link below –

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Innerbody-Wisdom-Finding-presence-spiritual-ebook/dp/B00UUEPPXI/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1475484739&sr=1-1&keywords=Innerbody+Wisdom

http://www.innerbodywisdom.co.uk

 

Relationship crisis on the horizon?

What to do when life is horrible

It happens to us all – that wonderful love life collapses, your partner turns into an ogre, you stop loving your job.  Whatever the circumstances we all suffer in a crisis.  But what if you knew, deep down, that every crisis holds the possibility for transformation?  Yes, a crisis holds danger for us – it threatens our wellbeing, our security and our sense of self.  But at its core, a crisis is inviting change.

What if I were to tell you that you can invoke profound energies within yourself to help you?  That you and I cannot find peace and intimacy through our little ego selves but we can open the door to our amazing inner zone of peace?

Firstly, we need to sit down with the problem, on our own.  Why alone?  Because we have to OWN the situation and we can only do that when alone and deeply focused.  Once we allow ourselves to feel the deep sadness and pain we are then able to accept the facts.  Write down what has happened.  Don’t allow the pain to overcome you.  Your pain body will rise up and swallow you if you allow it.  Breathe deeply.  Because at this point of profound acceptance of how things are, you are invoking the power of your inner wisdom.  You cannot decide to be happy or peaceful or content.  You know that.  You have been grasping after those things for years.  But now you have opened the inner door that will allow the grace and kindness and love inside your ancient self to arise.

Humanity is in crisis.  The world we live in is suffering from the ego dominated madness of the human mind.  Take this crisis and acknowlege the danger but know also, that it holds the profound seeds of change for the evolution of the human race.  Your pain is part of this story and your ability to allow transformation in your own world is a significant act of healing for us all.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of teaching Innerbody Wisdom.

To book a  coaching session  on Skype email her:

 frances@innerbodywisdom.co.uk

To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom click on the link below –

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Innerbody-Wisdom-Finding-presence-spiritual-ebook/dp/B00UUEPPXI/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1475484739&sr=1-1&keywords=Innerbody+Wisdom

http://www.innerbodywisdom.co.uk

I can’t stop thinking – it’s driving me mad

The biggest disease on this planet is overthinking

Let’s imagine you are sitting in bed having woken up.  You don’t feel rested or even happy.  Your mind has started up already with its endless thoughts.  But something in you knows this and is watching helplessly from the sidelines.  What to do?

That something is the real you, the wise observer that lies quietly behind everything you know yourself to be.  It is not helpless – that is just the message your mind is sending you.  So how to cure yourself of this dis-ease of the mind?  Take a moment now.  Switch your awareness away from this blogpost.  Put it instead on your breathing.  Yes, you know all this stuff already, but are you activating it in a dynamic and healing way?

Many of us know about watching the breath but how many of us do it during the day?

Here is my tip – imagine your breath is your friend and you want to say hello to your friend regularly.  Your friend is your support and your lifeline and literally, your very life itself.  You remember to breath knowingly and soon you are doing it without needing to place all your attention on it.  You begin to breathe consciously throughout the day and it warms and illuminates you.  Your mind starts to slow down.  It just can’t compete with your friendly breath.  It may try to hook you into your doubts, fears and guilt but when you notice that happening go to your breath and feel the warmth and comfort that lies there for you.

And what of the mind then?   It becomes a helpful servant, available to make lists and solve problems, but it no longer dominates.  The lack of ease experienced by most people, that can result in illness, is down to the epidemic of overthinking that has developed into the madness of our world today.

Choose not to be a part of  it.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She  lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of sharing Innerbody Wisdom.

To book a coaching session  on Skype email her: frances@innerbodywisdom.co.uk

To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom click on the link below –

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Innerbody-Wisdom-Finding-presence-spiritual-ebook/dp/B00UUEPPXI/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1475484739&sr=1-1&keywords=Innerbody+Wisdom

http://www.innerbodywisdom.co.uk

 

What to do in a crisis to help yourself

Why life goes pear shaped sometimes

Check this out – are you more focused on your outer material world than the inner world?Has that material world swallowed you whole like a fish? Then I can guarantee that is why a crisis has come up in your life.  Because?

Because our reason for being born is to reconnect to the Self who we really are and believe me,you are not going to find it in the material life, the everyday, the needy ego struggling to get more money, put food on the table and keep the car on the road.  No, so we get given a crisis from time to time to wake us up.  The crisis is calling a halt to the normal run of things.  It is guaranteed to stir you up and probably give you a hard time.

What to do?  Take a step back.  You need to assess the situation.  Breathe deeply into your belly and take your awareness into your body.  This takes practice, so please do not wait for your next crisis to practice this.  Do it now.  You need to establish a connection with your inner self, the one who you have neglected and forgotten all about.  Do this several times a day.  Begin to experience a sense of something deep and peaceful inside your being that is normally covered up with doing things, getting things, getting rid of things, planning how to get things and worrying about the past.  Once you get a sliver of a sense of that huge and lovely inner being that you really are you have opened the door for help, sustenance, kindness and protection.  Work at it.  It is a relationship and you need to pay attention to develop it.  Neglect it and you will lose this dimension of the divine and feel a deep sense of loss.  Some clients tell me they have had this lingering sense of loss and sadness since forever and nothing seems to fill the gap.  Well, of course not.  The stuff we desperately fill our lives with is not meant to fill the gap.   Initially relationships and material goods and experiences feel great but it all wears off eventually, doesn’t it?

So life forces us back on ourselves and we turn inwards to find what was always right there.  It was always right there because we are that peace, love and kindness we have all been searching for and not finding outside of ourselves.  The miracle is, as soon as a person turns their eye inwards and reconnects to the soul of their being, they start to express this wonderful energy and to attract it outside of themselves.  Miracles happen.  Life takes on a meaning and value that completes us.  We undergo our painful crises with a watchful eye – the eye of wisdom and knowing.  Our crises no longer take us over.  We acknowledge the patterns and rhythms of life and respect the outer world.  We are not here on earth to control the material world, but to live in it with wisdom and kindness and this is only possible when we have reconnected to the profound energies within our very own being.

Start today.  Their is no tomorrow in this story.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She  lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of teaching Innerbody Wisdom.  To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom just click on the link below –

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Innerbody-Wisdom-Finding-presence-spiritual-ebook/dp/B00UUEPPXI/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1475484739&sr=1-1&keywords=Innerbody+Wisdom

http://www.innerbodywisdom.co.uk

Peace arises when we stop thinking

Give your mind a rest this Easter

How to do this when our minds are so active?  It all sounds such a good idea and I would love to experience more peace and contentment, says one of my clients yesterday.  How can I achieve this?  How come you are so chilled?

What I am going to share with you is very easy to do.  It is a natural function of all humans.  We are born with this capacity.

To experience peace inside at a deep level of being, focus your attention on your body for three breaths.  Notice your mind trying like mad to think, to restore its command over you.   Minds are needy.  They get cross like a two year old if you don’t pay them attention. But like a small child, minds operate best in clear boundaries with constant repetition of those boundaries.

Do this at odd moments, in a queue, when washing up, when getting into the car.  Don’t think about it, just take three breaths and smile into your feet, your hands, your back, your belly.  Try it now.  Now is the time to do this.  Not tomorrow, not in an hour. Now.

Once you re-establish the habit of body awareness you will experience more peace in your life.  Body awareness and thinking are not mutually exclusive, as the experts among you know.  You can reach a state of body awareness where thinking is possible but does not take over the whole show and obliterate the sense of profound inner peace.  Notice how the quality of your thinking then supports good decisions, wise actions and a kind heart.

 

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She  lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of teaching Innerbody Wisdom.  To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom just click on the link below –

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Innerbody-Wisdom-Finding-presence-spiritual-ebook/dp/B00UUEPPXI/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1475484739&sr=1-1&keywords=Innerbody+Wisdom

To book a Skype session with Frances please email her.  Sessions cost £40 an hour.

http://www.innerbodywisdom.co.uk

Of course you are afraid!

What can I do?

Just by accepting we are human and vulnerable will help.  Take a deep breath and say ‘it’s OK, I can deal with this.’

We are human and vulnerable and very much alive.  But we are more than that.  We are divine beings of light and humour and wisdom.

There is a reason why the word HUMAN and HUMOUR are so close – because we need humour to lighten our burdens, to remind us of who we really are.  When we lose our sense of humour we are unable to access the profound inner wisdom of our deepest selves.  That place of wisdom, deep within us, can be accessed through laughter and breathing, through movement and voice.

Get up, stretch, look out of the window.  Smile (even if it through gritted teeth) and agree that you will find a way through.  If the situation demands help, get it.  Act today to right the wrongs in your life  Even sitting down and writing it down in a notebook can relieve the pressures. Inactivity and the feeling of being stuck often go together.  Spend a little more time in your inner world of dream, vision, fantasy.  Maybe you just forgot who you really are?  Don’t rely on others to validate your ‘good’ – validate it for yourself everyday.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She  lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of teaching Innerbody Wisdom.  To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom just click on the link below –

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Innerbody-Wisdom-Finding-presence-spiritual-ebook/dp/B00UUEPPXI/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1475484739&sr=1-1&keywords=Innerbody+Wisdom

http://www.innerbodywisdom.co.uk

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Having one of those days?

Reach out to a friend or colleague.

When the going gets tough, which it will at some point, reach out to friends.  Don’t stew in the anxious thoughts and bad memories.  Go slow, take your time.  Life is not a race to be won and you will not lose out by slowing down.  Just try it. That break for a phone call could be the solution.

Human beings have a fabulous ability to understand and be compassionate with each other.  If the people around you are not doing that then move on and find some new friends and colleagues.  Remember to be kind and forgive them when you do move on.  

Are you stuck and feel you can’t move on at the moment?  Then acknowledge this to yourself and write down the reasons why.  Then make a plan of one thing a day you can do to ease the situation while you work out how to let go of the life that does not nourish your soul.  Tell at least one trustworthy friend or colleague how you feel.  Visit your doctor and ask for help.  Finally, close your eyes and ask your guardian angel, the Higher Power (insert your preferred name here) for the life you want. You will be amazed how quickly things can change when you trust the profound inner resources available to every human being.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She  lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of teaching Innerbody Wisdom.  To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom just click on the link below –

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Innerbody-Wisdom-Finding-presence-spiritual-ebook/dp/B00UUEPPXI/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1475484739&sr=1-1&keywords=Innerbody+Wisdom

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Cut yourself some slack today

Did you know some of the greatest discoveries came when people let go and dreamed?

If you have the habit of hard work, I commend you.  If you can also balance that with regular dream time I commend you even more.  Generally we work to a schedule that promotes productivity in the outer world.  We often work in organisations that measure that productivity and pay us accordingly.

If this true of you then build your dream time into your leisure and wait for the amazing results it will produce for you.  Dream time is when you goof off, cut yourself some slack and let yourself experience that magical inner world of the creative imagination.  Burn out occurs in people who have lost the art of dream time.  Their minds have taken over the show.  They become driven, often punishing themselves and others around them with their tough schedules.  Empathy and wisdom do not thrive in that environment.  Fear and anxiety do.

So make yourself a promise today to goof off for half an hour.  Take the time to do something you really love and haven’t done for ages.  Get more rest that you think you need and take the time to remind yourself of your dreams.  Remember that inner world has immense potential to help you on life’s journey so engage with it today.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She  lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of teaching Innerbody Wisdom.  To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom just click on the link below –

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Innerbody-Wisdom-Finding-presence-spiritual-ebook/dp/B00UUEPPXI/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1475484739&sr=1-1&keywords=Innerbody+Wisdom

http://www.innerbodywisdom.co.uk