Being present boosts your power

3 ways to increase your energy day by day

Everyone is talking about mindfulness and being present these days so here are some top tips from my box of tricks that will help you understand and gain an experience of being present in the here and now so you can release unlimited energy into your life when you need it.

1 Use your smart phone to remind you to take three deep breaths. Just put a daily repeat note into your diary with a big smiley icon.  Why the icon?  Because laughter and humour are great ways to overcome the ego which wants you to think about the past and worry about the future.  It hates humour.  Humour is known as the ‘ego override’ in my business (being a teacher of things spiritual and mystical). Conscious breathing is free, easy and incredibly powerful.  Try it today. Do three deep breaths every hour and write down how you feel afterwards.

2 Don’t just sit there feeling tired. Your essential daily energy is endless.  If you suffer from tiredness that is not to do with physical activity, it is likely to be down to a lack of Presence in your life.  Presence is the power of being focused gently on what is going on right now.  Include in a sense of your body (body awareness) and a feeling that you are not alone.  Spooky?  Not at all. It is simply your expanded awareness of the WHOLE of you which you normally miss because all your energy is focused outwards. So take time everyday to reconnect to your wider self.  Stretch, meditate, breathe and laugh.  All of these will draw on your amazing resources of energy.  So next time you feel tired and need energy you know what to do!

3  Go to bed an hour earlier every night for a week.  Yes, I know there are a million reasons why you can’t do this but just for the sake of argument, how do you think it would help you?  Are you sleep deprived?  Do you normally wake up refreshed and ready to go?  I think I can hear you all saying a loud ‘I wish’ so let’s do something about it.  Just for seven nights use your smart phone, put in an alarm for one hour earlier, then tell your flatmates, family, children, whoever, that you are doing an experiment for sleep research.  Well, you are, because I want to hear back from you so I know if this is working for you or not.  Try it and see.  Notice the resistance to doing it.  Write a diary and note down how you felt.  After a week let me know how it went for you.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She  lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of teaching Innerbody Wisdom.  Read her book on Innerbody Wisdom available on Amazon.








Mis-taking Myself for Someone Else

Do you ever hear yourself say ‘I am so not myself today’?

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That happens when we make mistakes or get it wrong or generally mess up.  The excuse we give ourselves is that the essential ‘me’ has gone walkabout. Nearly everyone I know makes a mistake a minute or something in that order.  The trick is to turn your mistakes into your learning companions.  They are, after all, only actions you and I don’t think are acceptable or don’t measure up to the image we have of ourselves.

Every day write down these embarrassing and awful mistakes in your diary.  You will laugh when you read them back a year later.  Very few mistakes are unredeemable.  You can get ahead of the critical voice in your head by affirming ‘that was a useful experience, and I won’t do that again any day soon’.  Suffer yourself lovingly to take a risk, make a creative leap and generally ‘get it wrong’ from time to time.  You and I learn so much more that way and experience ourselves more fully.  Live on, people, it is all just a big experiment anyway.





Why you always come off worst…

Sometimes we compare ourselves to others.

The reason we always come off worst is this.  If we feel lesser or poorer or sadder in comparison our life energies dwindle fast.  If we feel smug or luckier, or just plain wonderful in comparison, our egos have taken over and our judgement is out the window!

You know me well enough by now.  I only write about what I have experienced in one way or another.  Come on, Frances, I hear you say, we all do that comparison stuff so how do we stop?  How do we get back our energy and compassion and stop behaving like small children who don’t feel loved?

For starters, just notice when we do it.  This is powerful medicine.  We create change in our lives from deep awareness, not wishing things to be different or trying harder or going on courses and reading books.  Those things help, of course, but learning skills needs to be allied with powerful ‘noticing what I am doing’ in order to create lasting changes to age old habits of the personality.  There is no easy fix.


How to Say No When You Need To

When Saying No is Kinder

This week choose one thing you want to say no to and prepare to say NO!

Not all of us are equipped with steely wills and adamantine discipline.  To get through the work of the week we may often need to say no.  Is that a problem for you?  Me to.  It seems so much easier just to give in and agree.  But often that is counter productive and will land us with a load of extra trouble later on.

How do we change this pattern?  We start with ourselves.  Saying no internally at the right moment can be enormously powerful.  It sets us up to know what we want and what we don’t.  The why’s and wherefore’s come later. Just focus on that inner feeling that tells you No is the answer right now.  Or if that moment passes you by, just focus on the moment missed when you wanted to say no to yourself.  Slowing down our responses enables us to gain control over important issues and habits that are not longer serving our goals in life.

Choosing for ourselves and creating clear boundaries is a lifetimes’ work so why not begin now? As you are clear with yourself so you become clear to others.  As you care for and support your own energies so you become able to show others how to do that too.







Good Morning Wales!

How do you greet your day?  

It just so happens that I live in the magic of Wales (or Cymru which is its correct name in Welsh). But wherever you live and how ever life is treating you, how you greet the day can radically change the way you see your world.

Maybe that inner dialogue just takes over from yesterday. When that happens the moment of magic every morning is stolen by our habit of letting the mind rule us.  Sometimes words just don’t come – it is more of a grunt!  I have been there.  Tiredness and a lack of doing what you love in life is a real deadener of the spirit within and that can begin the very moment you wake up.

So here are my tips for recovering your joy in life and regaining respect for yourself.

  • Allow an extra 5 minutes every day to wake up and greet the morning energy.  If you have children waking you up, teach them to say thank you and dance a few steps to celebrate the new day.  They will love it!
  • If you are lying there with all the problems of the day rolling past you in your mind, laugh.  Laugh heartily.  The mind cannot stand humour and your thoughts will decrease.  It is your life.  You choose what you focus on and what you don’t.
  • As you sit up and engage with the day, open your arms wide and breathe deeply.  This is ancient and symbolic behaviour which may earn you a few strange looks! It represents your ability to open to new and exciting things coming into your world.  Did you know that it isn’t ‘out there’ that is the problem?  Out there has no power over you if you are deeply connected to your life force from the start of the day.

Problems arrive and then go.  Days roll by.  All we have is our human consciousness and ability to choose.  So choose to greet your day and let me know how that feels for you.  I love feedback and likes!







When life is relentless

Take a break from thinking.

Have you tried that already but it didn’t work? And anyway, why would it help in my situation? Perhaps there is not one moment in the day when you are alone and then all you want to do is sleep? (mums, I salute you and I know what that is like).

So here is a way to stop those thoughts and restore your energy reserves (yes, continual thoughts and an ever present inner dialogue are very exhausting)

  • Begin right now with a deep breath.  Don’t rush it. Take it slowly.  Now thank your body for breathing you alive every day.
  • Now do this while you load the washing machine/wash up/check your emails
  • Breathe consciously ten times a day for the next seven days and make a note of when you did it. (A mental note is good, a written diary sheet of conscious breaths is even better)
  • WATCH OUT  for these results – less anxiety about your future and your family, more energy when you wake up, less thoughts chasing in your head, a strange calmness in difficult situations.

Why do we experience such profound changes when we pause in our daily routine and do something so utterly simple as just take a conscious breath?

  • we break the habits of a lifetime
  • we gain conscious control over our reactions to outer situations even if we cannot change the situations themselves
  • we recover quickly when we ‘lose it’ and get angry or upset
  • we experience Presence – the experience of being in a greater power than our little selves which is the foundation of all human life

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We are all agents of change

Take hope – you are changing as we speak!

How is it some words penetrate so deeply into our consciousness the person could be there with us, in the room?  This is how ideas transfer themselves and movements start and books are written. We get inspired – we literally breathe  change into our systems.

Love is inspiration arising.  Look for love in your small ways, in the little days, in the quiet moments of your lifetime.  Take today and find love in it.  Have a look in the dusty corners and realise that everything is changing anyway.  There is no time like the present!

Repeat frequently during the day.  Repeat until you find some  inspiration and enjoyable challenge in these words:

  • I Love change, I love change, I love change
  • I am an agent for good in this world
  • Changing day by day I learn to act for the highest good
  • Nothing lasts for ever and that includes me

Do you ‘Yoyo’?

Are you caught in the cycle of over focusing on your goals and then feeling hopeless about achieving them? Here’s a few tips to help you find that balance that allows progress and celebration to be tempered with realistic goals and self-awareness.

  • Start your day with quiet time, even though your inner dialogue is right there in your ear, feeding you with things to do.  Five minutes every day sitting with that inner dialogue eventually quietens it and you will access the deeper wisdom that lies beneath the mind.
  •  Know that the energy you perform your daily tasks in is more important that the tasks themselves.  Your ego will not like this one bit.  This is why in the ancient teachings it did not matter if you were a king or a street sweeper so long as you engaged with your deeper knowing in your daily tasks.
  • Practice being self aware.  Self awareness is not selfish and egotistical, it is the exact opposite.  It is taking a breath, one easy breath, to notice how you feel and to be aware of your body and its presence in space.  The ego contracts us and our world, makes us lose focus and the broader picture.  Being self aware allows us to expand and feel more spacious and compassionate.

Can you see it now?  That yoyo was your mind, lifting you up and dumping you back down again.  How thankful we can be that beyond mind we are the eternal peace of all beings in all worlds.  Please share if this was helpful to you and leave me a comment below if you have any questions.

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Do the problems go away?

I am a great fan of Being Present with my Problems – that is the mantra I hum. Whatever the block or the hold up or the lack, I breathe into my body and pause. All those problems are out there, in that concrete world of materialism most of the time. Or in here, in my mind, thinking about them.

To release myself from the grip of these constructed problems I return to conscious awareness of the Presence. Do the problems go away? Do they heck! But at least I am now aligned with my power and presence and able to respond in a much wiser way, rather than overreacting and responding with negativity.