Cut yourself some slack today

Did you know some of the greatest discoveries came when people let go and dreamed?

If you have the habit of hard work, I commend you.  If you can also balance that with regular dream time I commend you even more.  Generally we work to a schedule that promotes productivity in the outer world.  We often work in organisations that measure that productivity and pay us accordingly.

If this true of you then build your dream time into your leisure and wait for the amazing results it will produce for you.  Dream time is when you goof off, cut yourself some slack and let yourself experience that magical inner world of the creative imagination.  Burn out occurs in people who have lost the art of dream time.  Their minds have taken over the show.  They become driven, often punishing themselves and others around them with their tough schedules.  Empathy and wisdom do not thrive in that environment.  Fear and anxiety do.

So make yourself a promise today to goof off for half an hour.  Take the time to do something you really love and haven’t done for ages.  Get more rest that you think you need and take the time to remind yourself of your dreams.  Remember that inner world has immense potential to help you on life’s journey so engage with it today.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She  lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of teaching Innerbody Wisdom.  To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom just click on the link below –




Being present boosts your power

3 ways to increase your energy day by day

Everyone is talking about mindfulness and being present these days so here are some top tips from my box of tricks that will help you understand and gain an experience of being present in the here and now so you can release unlimited energy into your life when you need it.

1 Use your smart phone to remind you to take three deep breaths. Just put a daily repeat note into your diary with a big smiley icon.  Why the icon?  Because laughter and humour are great ways to overcome the ego which wants you to think about the past and worry about the future.  It hates humour.  Humour is known as the ‘ego override’ in my business (being a teacher of things spiritual and mystical). Conscious breathing is free, easy and incredibly powerful.  Try it today. Do three deep breaths every hour and write down how you feel afterwards.

2 Don’t just sit there feeling tired. Your essential daily energy is endless.  If you suffer from tiredness that is not to do with physical activity, it is likely to be down to a lack of Presence in your life.  Presence is the power of being focused gently on what is going on right now.  Include in a sense of your body (body awareness) and a feeling that you are not alone.  Spooky?  Not at all. It is simply your expanded awareness of the WHOLE of you which you normally miss because all your energy is focused outwards. So take time everyday to reconnect to your wider self.  Stretch, meditate, breathe and laugh.  All of these will draw on your amazing resources of energy.  So next time you feel tired and need energy you know what to do!

3  Go to bed an hour earlier every night for a week.  Yes, I know there are a million reasons why you can’t do this but just for the sake of argument, how do you think it would help you?  Are you sleep deprived?  Do you normally wake up refreshed and ready to go?  I think I can hear you all saying a loud ‘I wish’ so let’s do something about it.  Just for seven nights use your smart phone, put in an alarm for one hour earlier, then tell your flatmates, family, children, whoever, that you are doing an experiment for sleep research.  Well, you are, because I want to hear back from you so I know if this is working for you or not.  Try it and see.  Notice the resistance to doing it.  Write a diary and note down how you felt.  After a week let me know how it went for you.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She  lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of teaching Innerbody Wisdom.  Read her book on Innerbody Wisdom available on Amazon.








Mis-taking Myself for Someone Else

Do you ever hear yourself say ‘I am so not myself today’?

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That happens when we make mistakes or get it wrong or generally mess up.  The excuse we give ourselves is that the essential ‘me’ has gone walkabout. Nearly everyone I know makes a mistake a minute or something in that order.  The trick is to turn your mistakes into your learning companions.  They are, after all, only actions you and I don’t think are acceptable or don’t measure up to the image we have of ourselves.

Every day write down these embarrassing and awful mistakes in your diary.  You will laugh when you read them back a year later.  Very few mistakes are unredeemable.  You can get ahead of the critical voice in your head by affirming ‘that was a useful experience, and I won’t do that again any day soon’.  Suffer yourself lovingly to take a risk, make a creative leap and generally ‘get it wrong’ from time to time.  You and I learn so much more that way and experience ourselves more fully.  Live on, people, it is all just a big experiment anyway.





Why you always come off worst…

Sometimes we compare ourselves to others.

The reason we always come off worst is this.  If we feel lesser or poorer or sadder in comparison our life energies dwindle fast.  If we feel smug or luckier, or just plain wonderful in comparison, our egos have taken over and our judgement is out the window!

You know me well enough by now.  I only write about what I have experienced in one way or another.  Come on, Frances, I hear you say, we all do that comparison stuff so how do we stop?  How do we get back our energy and compassion and stop behaving like small children who don’t feel loved?

For starters, just notice when we do it.  This is powerful medicine.  We create change in our lives from deep awareness, not wishing things to be different or trying harder or going on courses and reading books.  Those things help, of course, but learning skills needs to be allied with powerful ‘noticing what I am doing’ in order to create lasting changes to age old habits of the personality.  There is no easy fix.


How to Say No When You Need To

When Saying No is Kinder

This week choose one thing you want to say no to and prepare to say NO!

Not all of us are equipped with steely wills and adamantine discipline.  To get through the work of the week we may often need to say no.  Is that a problem for you?  Me to.  It seems so much easier just to give in and agree.  But often that is counter productive and will land us with a load of extra trouble later on.

How do we change this pattern?  We start with ourselves.  Saying no internally at the right moment can be enormously powerful.  It sets us up to know what we want and what we don’t.  The why’s and wherefore’s come later. Just focus on that inner feeling that tells you No is the answer right now.  Or if that moment passes you by, just focus on the moment missed when you wanted to say no to yourself.  Slowing down our responses enables us to gain control over important issues and habits that are not longer serving our goals in life.

Choosing for ourselves and creating clear boundaries is a lifetimes’ work so why not begin now? As you are clear with yourself so you become clear to others.  As you care for and support your own energies so you become able to show others how to do that too.







How Kind Are You?

It is wise to be kind!

So let’s start now.

Take this moment to whisper to yourself  ‘it’s ok to be kind to me, whatever is happening in my life’.

Feel the kindness inside of you that is there to help you in your challenges today.  Did you know that if you physically feel the kindness inside of you each day you are 95% more likely to be kind to those you love?  Only kidding, I made that up, but it works for me.

Put your hand on your heart and breathe into it.  Feel it beating inside you.  Yes, that is your very own and unique heart in there.  We hardly ever think about the inside world of our physical existence or how it can help us. But being in touch with that hidden world can help us feel more connected and therefore more compassionate. 

Please try it and let me know if it works for you, and leave me a comment and share this post.  Thanks.  Have a very kind day.

It’s not all down to me

You fight, you struggle, you torment yourself and why?

Have you felt the need of a new direction lately?  Are you suffering from boredom fatigue? Do you constantly look at others and wish you had what they have?  Well, good, that shows you are entirely human and not an alien in a film!

Do you argue with yourself and get cross because things don’t go the way you want them to?  Do you ask yourself why, when you work so hard things don’t pan out how you want?  Have you have been taught that it’s all down to us, so if we work hard enough it will all come right?

Life takes hold and we realise that there are other factors at work in the world beyond our human manipulation.  There is a right time and place for things to come to fruition.  Yes, we have to act as best we know how and work can be fulfilling but that is not the whole story.  So what is the missing factor?

The missing factor is our ability to connect profoundly to the source of our creativity and wisdom and listen.  Actions that spring from this daily tuning-in are remarkable.  Beware the friends and colleagues who mark you out alone for your ability to create wealth, health and success. They may not see the work you do on the inside.  Remember  these things are not entirely in our hands.  There is a higher force that acts upon us and the wise person surrenders to this daily, without giving up their work and creative pursuits.

When the time is right, and that is now, you will discover ideas and teachings that reach beyond the mind and into the heart of your being and you will find a new path.  How can I possibly know this?  Because it happened to me.  And because it is the purpose of human life to reconnect consciously to our creative source of being. 

Take heart.  You have read this far in a long blog post.  That is very encouraging.  Something in you yearns for this unknown source of your being and it is here, now, in this very moment of reading. Once your business, your life problems are sourced in the daily connection to the profound power of your own being you will find a new sense of purpose in life. It is also in the hands of the higher power when this moment of revelation arrives, but arrive it will!







Good Morning Wales!

How do you greet your day?  

It just so happens that I live in the magic of Wales (or Cymru which is its correct name in Welsh). But wherever you live and how ever life is treating you, how you greet the day can radically change the way you see your world.

Maybe that inner dialogue just takes over from yesterday. When that happens the moment of magic every morning is stolen by our habit of letting the mind rule us.  Sometimes words just don’t come – it is more of a grunt!  I have been there.  Tiredness and a lack of doing what you love in life is a real deadener of the spirit within and that can begin the very moment you wake up.

So here are my tips for recovering your joy in life and regaining respect for yourself.

  • Allow an extra 5 minutes every day to wake up and greet the morning energy.  If you have children waking you up, teach them to say thank you and dance a few steps to celebrate the new day.  They will love it!
  • If you are lying there with all the problems of the day rolling past you in your mind, laugh.  Laugh heartily.  The mind cannot stand humour and your thoughts will decrease.  It is your life.  You choose what you focus on and what you don’t.
  • As you sit up and engage with the day, open your arms wide and breathe deeply.  This is ancient and symbolic behaviour which may earn you a few strange looks! It represents your ability to open to new and exciting things coming into your world.  Did you know that it isn’t ‘out there’ that is the problem?  Out there has no power over you if you are deeply connected to your life force from the start of the day.

Problems arrive and then go.  Days roll by.  All we have is our human consciousness and ability to choose.  So choose to greet your day and let me know how that feels for you.  I love feedback and likes!







When life is relentless

Take a break from thinking.

Have you tried that already but it didn’t work? And anyway, why would it help in my situation? Perhaps there is not one moment in the day when you are alone and then all you want to do is sleep? (mums, I salute you and I know what that is like).

So here is a way to stop those thoughts and restore your energy reserves (yes, continual thoughts and an ever present inner dialogue are very exhausting)

  • Begin right now with a deep breath.  Don’t rush it. Take it slowly.  Now thank your body for breathing you alive every day.
  • Now do this while you load the washing machine/wash up/check your emails
  • Breathe consciously ten times a day for the next seven days and make a note of when you did it. (A mental note is good, a written diary sheet of conscious breaths is even better)
  • WATCH OUT  for these results – less anxiety about your future and your family, more energy when you wake up, less thoughts chasing in your head, a strange calmness in difficult situations.

Why do we experience such profound changes when we pause in our daily routine and do something so utterly simple as just take a conscious breath?

  • we break the habits of a lifetime
  • we gain conscious control over our reactions to outer situations even if we cannot change the situations themselves
  • we recover quickly when we ‘lose it’ and get angry or upset
  • we experience Presence – the experience of being in a greater power than our little selves which is the foundation of all human life

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