Today? don’t take it personally

Life happens.

Most of us live our lives from habits we formed in childhood.  We don’t even know we have them most of the time.  Its only when those habits no longer serve us that we question why we do the things we do.  We respond on automatic, live our lives in a daze of activity and rarely step outside the habits we have formed.  Don’t let that person be you today.

By taking ten minutes every day to focus inwards you can immediately reverse a life time of habit.  When you see the rewards of observing yourself kindly and with love, you will return to your daily dose of calm with great enthusiasm.

If you find yourself asking WHY is this happening to me, know that your moment of awakening has arrived.  You are being given the gift of self awareness – the possibility to transcend your habits and live from the core of your being.  Life challenges us just for this reason – to give us the gift of awakening from the dream of who we think we are.  No amount of reading books or studying ideas or following others will help us.  They are the pointers for us to go inside and experience the deep inner wisdom that is our source.  They are a help but they are  not the experience itself.  Go beyond them.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of teaching Innerbody Wisdom.

To book a  coaching session  on Skype email her:

 frances@innerbodywisdom.co.uk

To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom click on the link below –

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Innerbody-Wisdom-Finding-presence-spiritual-ebook/dp/B00UUEPPXI/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1475484739&sr=1-1&keywords=Innerbody+Wisdom

http://www.innerbodywisdom.co.uk

 

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Make me a happy person

Taking responsibility for our own happiness in a troubled world.

What a revelation when I read somewhere that unhappiness is caused by how I think about what has happened to me and not just the event or person.  For indeed, these are now in the past and are memories.  The only thing I have any choice in right now is how I choose to think about it.

But do I truly have a choice over how and when I think?

Yes, but only if I meditate quietly every day for ten minutes and watch the thoughts in my mind.  And then continue to notice throughout the day.  I do this in the spirit of cheerful observation.  Aha, I say, there goes another stray thought.

Simple observation with  a cheerful outlook can seriously reduce the troubling thoughts in our heads!  This in turn develops a sense of calm.  Multitasking and too many distractions do the opposite.  So time everyday to reduce the inner dialogue will up your happiness levels.

Frances Lockstone is an author, healer and coach

http://www.innerbodywisdom.co.uk

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How to sit with your worst fears

You are in crisis,  a crisis of fear and anxiety.  Well if not today you probably had that last week or the week before or it’s coming.  We live in the age of anxiety.  Fear creates this.  But some of my fears are real! Yes, that is so.  But it does not help you.

To change the feedback loop the mind has created in order to help us survive we must find a way to bypass the fear messages that create more anxiety and pain.  We do not need to go into denial and repression.  That is also the old way.

I am going to ask you to sit with your fears and deeply feel them.  To sit in silence with fear is terrifying to most of us.  We will create endless distractions, diversions and addictions to not sit with the fears in silence.  But beloved ones, the FEARS want to be heard and seen.  Then they will evolve into powerful wisdom and action that creates love not more fear.

So sit.  Sit in the evening light.  Wake at dawn and sit.  Take yourself to the toilet during the day and sit.  It takes but a moment to breathe deeply into the body and feel.  Women have always done this and some men too.  Sit with your worst fears and watch them evolve.  You have more power and wisdom and insight than you will ever know until you sit in the silence of love.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of teaching Innerbody Wisdom.

To book a  coaching session  on Skype email her:

 frances@innerbodywisdom.co.uk

To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom click on the link below –

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Innerbody-Wisdom-Finding-presence-spiritual-ebook/dp/B00UUEPPXI/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1475484739&sr=1-1&keywords=Innerbody+Wisdom

http://www.innerbodywisdom.co.uk

 

Third party Insurance – emotional rescues

Does it work when you try to sort others out?

I get people who try to refer their partners to me for a session – and it very rarely works out.  Or they want their grown up children to get help.  Or it’s their parent or friend.  I love a referral but I need to speak directly to the person concerned – not via a third party.

When you notice yourself trying to sort out other people’s problems, stop and ask yourself:  Is this person an adult?  Are they physically and mentally able to communicate themselves?

Hard though it may be to step back, it is often the most powerful thing to do (emergencies excepted of course).  By suggesting a course of action we show concern.  But if we try to ‘organise’ a course of action for someone else it often fails because it is not empowering for them.  They may feel like you know the answers and they don’t.  So step back.  Let them come to you for advice by all means and share your opinions wisely.  Then take a deep breath and climb back into your own energy, your own power and sense of self.  This offers the other person a space to breathe themselves.

The most powerful and healing tool in the work I do is the power of my own Presence (my achingly alive awareness of the present moment and of the profound inner self who speaks through me at these times).  Cultivate your own sense of Presence.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of teaching Innerbody Wisdom.

To book a  coaching session  on Skype email her:

 frances@innerbodywisdom.co.uk

To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom click on the link below –

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Innerbody-Wisdom-Finding-presence-spiritual-ebook/dp/B00UUEPPXI/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1475484739&sr=1-1&keywords=Innerbody+Wisdom

http://www.innerbodywisdom.co.uk

 

The World has Gone Mad

When world events disturb and upset us – what can we do?

The most powerful way to create change is to take your attention inwards. Do this first in your breath. Then scan your body with your mind. Notice how it feels. This creates inner body awareness that opens the gateway to Presence – your conscious connection to the divine source. Once you experience that connection, go deeper. Dive into the Divine and you will find a wordless presence that will do more good in this world of ours than any amount of worrying.

THEN take action – action that springs from your inner wisdom that will be powerful and guided and gut felt. This is the opposite of the reactive response most humans experience that comes from the unconscious mind and is always unhelpful.

Several times a day make it your practice to connect to this inner source of being that we call Presence. Soon Presence will be with you when you wake and will guide our world to healing and peace.

Do you get irritable and annoyed with yourself?

Tough day?  Could be you are suffering from your inner critic.

Just one of those days?  or  a repeating pattern in your life.  It’s just how I am – or could I change this pattern of irritation and annoyance?

Your inner critic is a learned response to stress.  I bet you had a critical mum or dad (and bless them, because they were doing their best and so are you.)

Let’s see if we can work out what the pay off is.  Say to yourself ‘When I criticise myself it …..’  Could be in a strange way it relieves the tension for a moment (but does it create more in the long term?)  Could be it is a habit – something you do as a displacement activity when you can’t grasp a task or haven’t the energy to work out a solution.

Once you realise that this inner critic saps life energy and can become a habit that sends you on a downward spiral you may decide to observe it more closely.  Let it rip – do not try and stop it or it will go underground to emerge even stronger.  Get help from a trained therapist.  Talk to a good and wise friend.  Notice if anyone in your circle of family and friends is also critical of you.  What is inside of us tends to get reflected outside too.  The universe is there to help us see ourselves for the radiant beings of light we truly are.  The inner critic is the voice of ignorance and despair.  Would you want that to continue on and on in your mind space?  No, I thought not.  By observing the inner critic you are stopping sending it unconscious energy.  You are reversing a habit that is unhelpful.  You are gaining self knowledge.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of teaching Innerbody Wisdom.

To book a  coaching session  on Skype email her:

 frances@innerbodywisdom.co.uk

To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom click on the link below –

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Innerbody-Wisdom-Finding-presence-spiritual-ebook/dp/B00UUEPPXI/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1475484739&sr=1-1&keywords=Innerbody+Wisdom

http://www.innerbodywisdom.co.uk

Say No Today if it isn’t working for you

Speak up or remove yourself from the situation

When life gets tough you have a choice – surrender and accept how it is on the inside and then work to put things right as best you can.  Or surrender to the fact that it just isn’t working or it’s plain wrong and remove yourself from the situation.

Both scenarios require surrender on the inside.  Surrender means accepting things as they are and taking responsibility for your part in this.  Do not confuse this with surrendering to someone or a situation out of weakness.  Battle can be done in a state of inner surrender but it will feel completely different because you will feel a strong sense of self or presence or connectedness that makes it the right thing for you to do.

When we are connected to our deep inner self – the innerbody wisdom I speak about often – we experience presence, or a Presence, or a deep sense of being powerfully here and now.  We can cultivate that level of being within ourselves and it will change the outer world that we experience in very interesting ways.  Begin the day with a moment of intense quietness.  Invite your body to surrender any tension or inner conflict for that moment.  Notice how your body reacts to this gentle invitation.  Do this every day and then start to do it during the day at odd moments.  You are reversing generations of human distress and fear by allowing yourself to surrender your own tensions for a moment or two.  What we do for ourselves we also do for others.  Recognise this is a time of importance for the future of the human race and commit to your own process  of inner surrender.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of sharing Innerbody Wisdom.

To book a  coaching session  on Skype email her:

 frances@innerbodywisdom.co.uk

To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom click on the link below –

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Innerbody-Wisdom-Finding-presence-spiritual-ebook/dp/B00UUEPPXI/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1475484739&sr=1-1&keywords=Innerbody+Wisdom

http://www.innerbodywisdom.co.uk

 

 

 

 

When it hurts, choose to be present

It can get messy, life!

We want to be happy.  That is pretty well it.  Life, of course, presents us with many unhappy circumstances.  How do we set about dealing with these challenges?

1 Scream and shout and blame someone else

2 Grumble that you shouldn’t have to deal with this.  Also called the ‘Why me syndrome’

3 Give up and get depressed

You and I have already repeated 1-3 many times.   Let’s try something else, shall we?

Notice the patterns.  When 1-3 occur again, write down what you experience.  Don’t get hard on yourself.  Punishments tend to worsen the crime not make it go away.

Today begin the new reaction.  Begin to notice and be very present with your behaviour.  Be curious about it.  Don’t dismiss or hide it.  True change begins with awareness.  Seek professional help if you need it.  Talk to others who are experienced in this area.  Read the books.  Your life, your precious being, are your true work this lifetime.

 

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of teaching Innerbody Wisdom.

To book a  coaching session  on Skype email her:

 frances@innerbodywisdom.co.uk

To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom click on the link below –

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Innerbody-Wisdom-Finding-presence-spiritual-ebook/dp/B00UUEPPXI/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1475484739&sr=1-1&keywords=Innerbody+Wisdom

http://www.innerbodywisdom.co.uk

 

 

 

How to avoid unnecessary dramas

Be the watcher in your life

Having a few too many dramas lately?  Wondering who to blame and how to get back a sense of balance and sanity?

Take a moment and sit with your hands resting on your lap.  What I am going to tell you will reduce your life dramas significantly.

The dramas we create each day come from our ego self – the bit of me and you that thinks the world is a tough and ugly place full of difficult people.  Ego thinks in terms of threat, competition, crisis, manipulation and winning at all costs.

How you change that drama inducing scenario is by becoming the Watcher of your mind and ego activity.  You begin by sitting quietly for five minutes a day and observing the thoughts in your mind as they pass through.  That shows you the program Ego is currently running as a background app to your life.  It is powerful.  It is subversive.  It will run your life if you let it.  Don’t.

Instead take the training course that means you become the Watcher in your life.  Five minutes a day is a small price to pay to regain control over the dramas.  They simply slow down and then stop once you take the immense step of observing your thoughts and daily actions.  And if the dramas continue?

Bless them.  They are the clearest message you will ever have that you are an unconscious human being.  All of humanity is on a pathway to consciousness.  That is our evolutionary pattern.  Your choice to wake up and be a conscious being – is it going to be now or later?

If you chose later as your option your ego made that choice.  The ego imagines we have a future.  It depends on it.  In reality we have this moment and this moment alone to be the consciousness that is love without end.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of sharing Innerbody Wisdom.

To book a  coaching session  on Skype email her:

 frances@innerbodywisdom.co.uk

To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom click on the link below –

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Innerbody-Wisdom-Finding-presence-spiritual-ebook/dp/B00UUEPPXI/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1475484739&sr=1-1&keywords=Innerbody+Wisdom

http://www.innerbodywisdom.co.uk

 

 

 

 

 

Relationship crisis on the horizon?

What to do when life is horrible

It happens to us all – that wonderful love life collapses, your partner turns into an ogre, you stop loving your job.  Whatever the circumstances we all suffer in a crisis.  But what if you knew, deep down, that every crisis holds the possibility for transformation?  Yes, a crisis holds danger for us – it threatens our wellbeing, our security and our sense of self.  But at its core, a crisis is inviting change.

What if I were to tell you that you can invoke profound energies within yourself to help you?  That you and I cannot find peace and intimacy through our little ego selves but we can open the door to our amazing inner zone of peace?

Firstly, we need to sit down with the problem, on our own.  Why alone?  Because we have to OWN the situation and we can only do that when alone and deeply focused.  Once we allow ourselves to feel the deep sadness and pain we are then able to accept the facts.  Write down what has happened.  Don’t allow the pain to overcome you.  Your pain body will rise up and swallow you if you allow it.  Breathe deeply.  Because at this point of profound acceptance of how things are, you are invoking the power of your inner wisdom.  You cannot decide to be happy or peaceful or content.  You know that.  You have been grasping after those things for years.  But now you have opened the inner door that will allow the grace and kindness and love inside your ancient self to arise.

Humanity is in crisis.  The world we live in is suffering from the ego dominated madness of the human mind.  Take this crisis and acknowlege the danger but know also, that it holds the profound seeds of change for the evolution of the human race.  Your pain is part of this story and your ability to allow transformation in your own world is a significant act of healing for us all.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of teaching Innerbody Wisdom.

To book a  coaching session  on Skype email her:

 frances@innerbodywisdom.co.uk

To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom click on the link below –

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Innerbody-Wisdom-Finding-presence-spiritual-ebook/dp/B00UUEPPXI/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1475484739&sr=1-1&keywords=Innerbody+Wisdom

http://www.innerbodywisdom.co.uk