Make me a happy person

Taking responsibility for our own happiness in a troubled world.

What a revelation when I read somewhere that unhappiness is caused by how I think about what has happened to me and not just the event or person.  For indeed, these are now in the past and are memories.  The only thing I have any choice in right now is how I choose to think about it.

But do I truly have a choice over how and when I think?

Yes, but only if I meditate quietly every day for ten minutes and watch the thoughts in my mind.  And then continue to notice throughout the day.  I do this in the spirit of cheerful observation.  Aha, I say, there goes another stray thought.

Simple observation with  a cheerful outlook can seriously reduce the troubling thoughts in our heads!  This in turn develops a sense of calm.  Multitasking and too many distractions do the opposite.  So time everyday to reduce the inner dialogue will up your happiness levels.

Frances Lockstone is an author, healer and coach









There is no time like the present time

Grasp the moment and walk your talk!

Sit for a moment and ask yourself ‘What will matter most to me in a year’s time?  What is really important for me to focus on in my life right now?’

Taking time to go inwards and breathe into your heart will help.  The answers very often do not lie ‘out there’ in the material world.  Taking action based on a deep inner conviction of what your soul is asking you to do is much wiser than struggling on.

While we remain in a body – literally embodied – we have time to fill.  Notice how you fill that time up.  Is it full of creative and loving activity and deep inner reflection?  Is it full of fear-led distractions that may seem like a comfort at the time but actually drain our life force?  Can you make an intention today to enjoy more of this journey in ways that contribute to the good of all?  Do not delay.  Human life is not endless.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of teaching Innerbody Wisdom.

To book a  coaching session  on Skype email her:

To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom click on the link below –




The World has Gone Mad

When world events disturb and upset us – what can we do?

The most powerful way to create change is to take your attention inwards. Do this first in your breath. Then scan your body with your mind. Notice how it feels. This creates inner body awareness that opens the gateway to Presence – your conscious connection to the divine source. Once you experience that connection, go deeper. Dive into the Divine and you will find a wordless presence that will do more good in this world of ours than any amount of worrying.

THEN take action – action that springs from your inner wisdom that will be powerful and guided and gut felt. This is the opposite of the reactive response most humans experience that comes from the unconscious mind and is always unhelpful.

Several times a day make it your practice to connect to this inner source of being that we call Presence. Soon Presence will be with you when you wake and will guide our world to healing and peace.

I can’t stop thinking – it’s driving me mad

The biggest disease on this planet is overthinking

Let’s imagine you are sitting in bed having woken up.  You don’t feel rested or even happy.  Your mind has started up already with its endless thoughts.  But something in you knows this and is watching helplessly from the sidelines.  What to do?

That something is the real you, the wise observer that lies quietly behind everything you know yourself to be.  It is not helpless – that is just the message your mind is sending you.  So how to cure yourself of this dis-ease of the mind?  Take a moment now.  Switch your awareness away from this blogpost.  Put it instead on your breathing.  Yes, you know all this stuff already, but are you activating it in a dynamic and healing way?

Many of us know about watching the breath but how many of us do it during the day?

Here is my tip – imagine your breath is your friend and you want to say hello to your friend regularly.  Your friend is your support and your lifeline and literally, your very life itself.  You remember to breath knowingly and soon you are doing it without needing to place all your attention on it.  You begin to breathe consciously throughout the day and it warms and illuminates you.  Your mind starts to slow down.  It just can’t compete with your friendly breath.  It may try to hook you into your doubts, fears and guilt but when you notice that happening go to your breath and feel the warmth and comfort that lies there for you.

And what of the mind then?   It becomes a helpful servant, available to make lists and solve problems, but it no longer dominates.  The lack of ease experienced by most people, that can result in illness, is down to the epidemic of overthinking that has developed into the madness of our world today.

Choose not to be a part of  it.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She  lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of sharing Innerbody Wisdom.

To book a coaching session  on Skype email her:

To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom click on the link below –


What to do in a crisis to help yourself

Why life goes pear shaped sometimes

Check this out – are you more focused on your outer material world than the inner world?Has that material world swallowed you whole like a fish? Then I can guarantee that is why a crisis has come up in your life.  Because?

Because our reason for being born is to reconnect to the Self who we really are and believe me,you are not going to find it in the material life, the everyday, the needy ego struggling to get more money, put food on the table and keep the car on the road.  No, so we get given a crisis from time to time to wake us up.  The crisis is calling a halt to the normal run of things.  It is guaranteed to stir you up and probably give you a hard time.

What to do?  Take a step back.  You need to assess the situation.  Breathe deeply into your belly and take your awareness into your body.  This takes practice, so please do not wait for your next crisis to practice this.  Do it now.  You need to establish a connection with your inner self, the one who you have neglected and forgotten all about.  Do this several times a day.  Begin to experience a sense of something deep and peaceful inside your being that is normally covered up with doing things, getting things, getting rid of things, planning how to get things and worrying about the past.  Once you get a sliver of a sense of that huge and lovely inner being that you really are you have opened the door for help, sustenance, kindness and protection.  Work at it.  It is a relationship and you need to pay attention to develop it.  Neglect it and you will lose this dimension of the divine and feel a deep sense of loss.  Some clients tell me they have had this lingering sense of loss and sadness since forever and nothing seems to fill the gap.  Well, of course not.  The stuff we desperately fill our lives with is not meant to fill the gap.   Initially relationships and material goods and experiences feel great but it all wears off eventually, doesn’t it?

So life forces us back on ourselves and we turn inwards to find what was always right there.  It was always right there because we are that peace, love and kindness we have all been searching for and not finding outside of ourselves.  The miracle is, as soon as a person turns their eye inwards and reconnects to the soul of their being, they start to express this wonderful energy and to attract it outside of themselves.  Miracles happen.  Life takes on a meaning and value that completes us.  We undergo our painful crises with a watchful eye – the eye of wisdom and knowing.  Our crises no longer take us over.  We acknowledge the patterns and rhythms of life and respect the outer world.  We are not here on earth to control the material world, but to live in it with wisdom and kindness and this is only possible when we have reconnected to the profound energies within our very own being.

Start today.  Their is no tomorrow in this story.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She  lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of teaching Innerbody Wisdom.  To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom just click on the link below –

Of course you are afraid!

What can I do?

Just by accepting we are human and vulnerable will help.  Take a deep breath and say ‘it’s OK, I can deal with this.’

We are human and vulnerable and very much alive.  But we are more than that.  We are divine beings of light and humour and wisdom.

There is a reason why the word HUMAN and HUMOUR are so close – because we need humour to lighten our burdens, to remind us of who we really are.  When we lose our sense of humour we are unable to access the profound inner wisdom of our deepest selves.  That place of wisdom, deep within us, can be accessed through laughter and breathing, through movement and voice.

Get up, stretch, look out of the window.  Smile (even if it through gritted teeth) and agree that you will find a way through.  If the situation demands help, get it.  Act today to right the wrongs in your life  Even sitting down and writing it down in a notebook can relieve the pressures. Inactivity and the feeling of being stuck often go together.  Spend a little more time in your inner world of dream, vision, fantasy.  Maybe you just forgot who you really are?  Don’t rely on others to validate your ‘good’ – validate it for yourself everyday.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She  lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of teaching Innerbody Wisdom.  To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom just click on the link below –








Daily Inspiration – Opportunities are Blessings — Be Inspired..!!

“The unthankful heart discovers no mercies; but the thankful heart will find, in every hour, some heavenly blessings” ~Henry Ward Beecher Our daily lives are filled with delays, missed opportunities, setbacks, and outright nuisances. It happens to us all. However bad a circumstance seems and feels, it could always be worse. It may seem unnatural and perhaps […]

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A laugh a day keeps you fit

Here is my laugh generating formula.

Keep a list of things that make you laugh out loud – open a file for it now and add in cartoons, episodes of your favourite sitcom, funny pics of the family, old jokes and so on.

Now check if you are BELLY LAUGHING.

Maybe life has been tough for a while and you forgot to give yourself permission  to let go and have a good cackle.  Get that belly moving.  When we laugh from the guts we send a very important message to our whole body that all is well and indeed, right this moment, it usually is.  The nerves release, our guts relax, our minds stop thinking for a moment and we find that wonderful connection to life that humour brings us.  Don’t laugh at others, laugh with them, it is so much healthier.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She  lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of teaching Innerbody Wisdom.  To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom just click on the link below –



Create something fun!

Make Monday morning your funday morning

Don’t struggle with life, habits and lack, sit back and dream for five minutes before you begin the day, the week, the rest of your life.

Here is your dream scenario.  You are on a warm beach in a country you love.  The sun is rising in the sky and with it your sense of well being.  In the distance a seagull floats through the air with ease.  You wriggle and shift your weight.  ‘That could be me,’ you think to yourself.  And indeed it could.  Now dream of the life you long for.  Give it some energy.  Feel your longing, hopes and desires.

Now sit up and affirm out loud ‘Everything I dream of comes to me easily and quickly now for the highest good of everyone concerned as I serve the Higher Power’.  

ps substiture the words you prefer for Higher Power

Repeat daily for as long as it takes to create the life your were meant to live and meanwhile do one thing everyday to prepare for your new life.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She  lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of teaching Innerbody Wisdom.  To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom just click on the link below –




Having one of those days?

Reach out to a friend or colleague.

When the going gets tough, which it will at some point, reach out to friends.  Don’t stew in the anxious thoughts and bad memories.  Go slow, take your time.  Life is not a race to be won and you will not lose out by slowing down.  Just try it. That break for a phone call could be the solution.

Human beings have a fabulous ability to understand and be compassionate with each other.  If the people around you are not doing that then move on and find some new friends and colleagues.  Remember to be kind and forgive them when you do move on.  

Are you stuck and feel you can’t move on at the moment?  Then acknowledge this to yourself and write down the reasons why.  Then make a plan of one thing a day you can do to ease the situation while you work out how to let go of the life that does not nourish your soul.  Tell at least one trustworthy friend or colleague how you feel.  Visit your doctor and ask for help.  Finally, close your eyes and ask your guardian angel, the Higher Power (insert your preferred name here) for the life you want. You will be amazed how quickly things can change when you trust the profound inner resources available to every human being.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She  lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of teaching Innerbody Wisdom.  To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom just click on the link below –