Having one of those days?

Reach out to a friend or colleague.

When the going gets tough, which it will at some point, reach out to friends.  Don’t stew in the anxious thoughts and bad memories.  Go slow, take your time.  Life is not a race to be won and you will not lose out by slowing down.  Just try it. That break for a phone call could be the solution.

Human beings have a fabulous ability to understand and be compassionate with each other.  If the people around you are not doing that then move on and find some new friends and colleagues.  Remember to be kind and forgive them when you do move on.  

Are you stuck and feel you can’t move on at the moment?  Then acknowledge this to yourself and write down the reasons why.  Then make a plan of one thing a day you can do to ease the situation while you work out how to let go of the life that does not nourish your soul.  Tell at least one trustworthy friend or colleague how you feel.  Visit your doctor and ask for help.  Finally, close your eyes and ask your guardian angel, the Higher Power (insert your preferred name here) for the life you want. You will be amazed how quickly things can change when you trust the profound inner resources available to every human being.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She  lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of teaching Innerbody Wisdom.  To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom just click on the link below –






Cut yourself some slack today

Did you know some of the greatest discoveries came when people let go and dreamed?

If you have the habit of hard work, I commend you.  If you can also balance that with regular dream time I commend you even more.  Generally we work to a schedule that promotes productivity in the outer world.  We often work in organisations that measure that productivity and pay us accordingly.

If this true of you then build your dream time into your leisure and wait for the amazing results it will produce for you.  Dream time is when you goof off, cut yourself some slack and let yourself experience that magical inner world of the creative imagination.  Burn out occurs in people who have lost the art of dream time.  Their minds have taken over the show.  They become driven, often punishing themselves and others around them with their tough schedules.  Empathy and wisdom do not thrive in that environment.  Fear and anxiety do.

So make yourself a promise today to goof off for half an hour.  Take the time to do something you really love and haven’t done for ages.  Get more rest that you think you need and take the time to remind yourself of your dreams.  Remember that inner world has immense potential to help you on life’s journey so engage with it today.

Frances Lockstone is an author and coach. She  lives and works in Wales, UK and loves to share her years of experience of teaching Innerbody Wisdom.  To read her book on Innerbody Wisdom just click on the link below –






Mis-taking Myself for Someone Else

Do you ever hear yourself say ‘I am so not myself today’?

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That happens when we make mistakes or get it wrong or generally mess up.  The excuse we give ourselves is that the essential ‘me’ has gone walkabout. Nearly everyone I know makes a mistake a minute or something in that order.  The trick is to turn your mistakes into your learning companions.  They are, after all, only actions you and I don’t think are acceptable or don’t measure up to the image we have of ourselves.

Every day write down these embarrassing and awful mistakes in your diary.  You will laugh when you read them back a year later.  Very few mistakes are unredeemable.  You can get ahead of the critical voice in your head by affirming ‘that was a useful experience, and I won’t do that again any day soon’.  Suffer yourself lovingly to take a risk, make a creative leap and generally ‘get it wrong’ from time to time.  You and I learn so much more that way and experience ourselves more fully.  Live on, people, it is all just a big experiment anyway.






Why you always come off worst…

Sometimes we compare ourselves to others.

The reason we always come off worst is this.  If we feel lesser or poorer or sadder in comparison our life energies dwindle fast.  If we feel smug or luckier, or just plain wonderful in comparison, our egos have taken over and our judgement is out the window!

You know me well enough by now.  I only write about what I have experienced in one way or another.  Come on, Frances, I hear you say, we all do that comparison stuff so how do we stop?  How do we get back our energy and compassion and stop behaving like small children who don’t feel loved?

For starters, just notice when we do it.  This is powerful medicine.  We create change in our lives from deep awareness, not wishing things to be different or trying harder or going on courses and reading books.  Those things help, of course, but learning skills needs to be allied with powerful ‘noticing what I am doing’ in order to create lasting changes to age old habits of the personality.  There is no easy fix.



How to Say No When You Need To

When Saying No is Kinder

This week choose one thing you want to say no to and prepare to say NO!

Not all of us are equipped with steely wills and adamantine discipline.  To get through the work of the week we may often need to say no.  Is that a problem for you?  Me to.  It seems so much easier just to give in and agree.  But often that is counter productive and will land us with a load of extra trouble later on.

How do we change this pattern?  We start with ourselves.  Saying no internally at the right moment can be enormously powerful.  It sets us up to know what we want and what we don’t.  The why’s and wherefore’s come later. Just focus on that inner feeling that tells you No is the answer right now.  Or if that moment passes you by, just focus on the moment missed when you wanted to say no to yourself.  Slowing down our responses enables us to gain control over important issues and habits that are not longer serving our goals in life.

Choosing for ourselves and creating clear boundaries is a lifetimes’ work so why not begin now? As you are clear with yourself so you become clear to others.  As you care for and support your own energies so you become able to show others how to do that too.








Are you in your Comfort Zone?

Comfort zones are fine and wonderful things but…

Take a look at your life right now.  Are you a go-getter living on the edge or, like most of us, do you have a fairly humdrum life sprinkled with occasional highlights?

Just knowing when I am in my comfort zone and cruising is very helpful to me.  Take the time now to assess your day.  Comfort zones run mainly on habit, feel comfortable, don’t take too much energy and help us through the chores of the day.  Challenging ourselves can feel uncomfortable, edgy and emotionally draining.  All our survival instincts tell us to just get through without asking if what we are doing is helping us live our truth.

What is the Growth Edge? – that little ledge of being where we feel truly alive, challenging our daily lives, risking to live the dream, facing our negative habits, seeing what is holding us back and getting the help we need.

Take time today to assess where you are in your life and in your dreams of what could be.  You can go there.  You were meant to.





When you never stop…

You lose sight of who you really are.

Did you know that in the gap between one breath and another there is a gateway to your true self?  Amazing, isn’t it, that we fail to notice that more often than not.  Yet that connection to our most profound and universal self is the place to start the day, the week the month and the lifetime if you want to be awake to your own destiny.  And who doesn’t want to know the ultimate reason they were born?  Just knowing the gateway to your inner self exists is enough to trigger a whole series of events that will put you back on your true path.  Want to connect more? Pause, breathe, smile.  That’s all.  Your intention to connect will do the rest.  Have a wonderful day.


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Awareness is the key to change for you

Pause, breathe, become very aware of the habit itself

I trained for a while in Alexander Technique looking at habits of posture that are so ingrained we can’t detect them ourselves. And what was Alexander saying? Pause, breathe, become very aware and the habit itself will change.Awareness is the key to changing habits. I prefer to talk about habits evolving.

Eckhart Tolle is also very interesting on this subject. He mentions the will power most of us think we need to diet, work harder etc and how this will power is ego based and will eventually fail us. Very interesting eh? So all this business of trying harder and head down, concentrate that we are taught at school could be counter productive if that is all we do.

The secret is to pause and breathe when you notice an unhelpful habit (like putting off writing or editing) Then spend a moment or two noticing how you feel, in the body not in your head! Be kind. Be aware. Have humour about your habit. Now it is going to change. The ego cannot resist humour and awareness and nor can our habits.

PS  we also have very good and necessary habits. Think how long it would take us to get out of bed if we had to tell each muscle when to move. Our wise bodies also have habits that help us through our days.

It’s not all down to me

You fight, you struggle, you torment yourself and why?

Have you felt the need of a new direction lately?  Are you suffering from boredom fatigue? Do you constantly look at others and wish you had what they have?  Well, good, that shows you are entirely human and not an alien in a film!

Do you argue with yourself and get cross because things don’t go the way you want them to?  Do you ask yourself why, when you work so hard things don’t pan out how you want?  Have you have been taught that it’s all down to us, so if we work hard enough it will all come right?

Life takes hold and we realise that there are other factors at work in the world beyond our human manipulation.  There is a right time and place for things to come to fruition.  Yes, we have to act as best we know how and work can be fulfilling but that is not the whole story.  So what is the missing factor?

The missing factor is our ability to connect profoundly to the source of our creativity and wisdom and listen.  Actions that spring from this daily tuning-in are remarkable.  Beware the friends and colleagues who mark you out alone for your ability to create wealth, health and success. They may not see the work you do on the inside.  Remember  these things are not entirely in our hands.  There is a higher force that acts upon us and the wise person surrenders to this daily, without giving up their work and creative pursuits.

When the time is right, and that is now, you will discover ideas and teachings that reach beyond the mind and into the heart of your being and you will find a new path.  How can I possibly know this?  Because it happened to me.  And because it is the purpose of human life to reconnect consciously to our creative source of being. 

Take heart.  You have read this far in a long blog post.  That is very encouraging.  Something in you yearns for this unknown source of your being and it is here, now, in this very moment of reading. Once your business, your life problems are sourced in the daily connection to the profound power of your own being you will find a new sense of purpose in life. It is also in the hands of the higher power when this moment of revelation arrives, but arrive it will!








Good Morning Wales!

How do you greet your day?  

It just so happens that I live in the magic of Wales (or Cymru which is its correct name in Welsh). But wherever you live and how ever life is treating you, how you greet the day can radically change the way you see your world.

Maybe that inner dialogue just takes over from yesterday. When that happens the moment of magic every morning is stolen by our habit of letting the mind rule us.  Sometimes words just don’t come – it is more of a grunt!  I have been there.  Tiredness and a lack of doing what you love in life is a real deadener of the spirit within and that can begin the very moment you wake up.

So here are my tips for recovering your joy in life and regaining respect for yourself.

  • Allow an extra 5 minutes every day to wake up and greet the morning energy.  If you have children waking you up, teach them to say thank you and dance a few steps to celebrate the new day.  They will love it!
  • If you are lying there with all the problems of the day rolling past you in your mind, laugh.  Laugh heartily.  The mind cannot stand humour and your thoughts will decrease.  It is your life.  You choose what you focus on and what you don’t.
  • As you sit up and engage with the day, open your arms wide and breathe deeply.  This is ancient and symbolic behaviour which may earn you a few strange looks! It represents your ability to open to new and exciting things coming into your world.  Did you know that it isn’t ‘out there’ that is the problem?  Out there has no power over you if you are deeply connected to your life force from the start of the day.

Problems arrive and then go.  Days roll by.  All we have is our human consciousness and ability to choose.  So choose to greet your day and let me know how that feels for you.  I love feedback and likes!